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Jul 2026 — New

Gentle parenting vs permissive parenting

Why this distinction matters more than almost any other. The version failing parents is not gentle parenting; it is permissive parenting wearing its clothes. On boundaries, warmth, and sixty years of evidence.

Jun 2026

Sleep: gentle approaches for real families

What the evidence actually says about children's sleep, why naps are where learning is laid down, and what responsive sleep looks like at every stage. Not a method, a framework you can stand on.

Jun 2026

Behaviour is communication

Before we ask how to make it stop, we need to ask what the child is trying to say. On the brain behind the meltdown, connection before correction, and the question that changes everything.

May 2026

The Five Builders

What children actually need from the adults in their lives. Safety. Warmth. Freedom. Words. Wonder. Five things, none of them for sale, all of them worth protecting.

May 2026

We are not glorified babysitters

What childminders actually do, and why the move to pre-school at three might deserve more thought than it usually gets. On ratios, language, school readiness, and the quiet advantages of mixed-age care.

April 2026

Funded childcare: what it is, when your child is eligible, and why the timing matters

The dates, the deadlines, and what nobody tells you before you miss them. A practical guide to eligibility, application windows, and what the funding actually covers.

April 2026

The five o'clock child

Why the child who was fine all day falls apart the moment they get home, and what it actually means. The answer is not what most parents expect.

April 2026

Less is more

The case for slowing down, what children actually need, why boredom matters, and what the research says about the most developmental thing you can offer.

April 2026

The summer before school

The summer before school is not a preparation window. It is the last of the ordinary time. And ordinary time, spent well, is the best preparation there is.

April 2026

What the research actually says about screens

Not the headlines. Not the panic. Not the dismissal. The evidence, nuanced, research-grounded, and free of guilt.

April 2026

What I would actually give a new parent

A gift guide from someone who has watched what helps and what doesn't for nearly twenty years. None of it has affiliate links.

Coming 16 July

Siblings: why they love and fight with equal intensity

When they fight over a toy, they are almost never fighting over the toy. What sibling conflict is really asking of us, why comparison does quiet harm, and what actually helps.

Four-part series

What your child is telling you


A series for parents who want to understand, not just manage. Four articles, each addressing a specific worry that parents bring, often quietly, at the end of a pickup conversation, in a message sent late at night.

Behaviour is the first language children have. Before they can name what they feel, they show it. The behaviour is not the problem. It is the message. And messages, once understood, change everything about how you respond.

Part 1 of 4

Why is my child's behaviour changing?

When a child's behaviour shifts, when settled becomes unsettled, cheerful becomes resistant, the instinct is to ask how to stop it. This article asks instead what it is saying. Behaviour is communication, and what can be read can be responded to.

Part 2 of 4

Is my child's language normal?

The stutter that comes and goes. The vague answer about what they had for lunch. The question about the banana from a child who knows perfectly well what a banana is. What is typical, what is worth monitoring, and what genuinely warrants a conversation with a specialist.

Part 3 of 4

Are we bribing or motivating?

Most parents have used a version of the conditional treat. It works in the short term. Then it stops working quite as well. This article explains why, and what actually builds the kind of cooperation that does not require maintaining.

Part 4 of 4

Why does my child behave differently in different places?

The child who is calm and collaborative in one environment and harder in another is not being inconsistent. They are responding precisely to what each environment is providing. What that means, and what it tells you about what they need.

What readers say

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These are responses from parents who have read the articles. Shared with permission, and published as written. Reviews about the guides are on the about page.

“Great reminder for parents that the most important things we can give for a child are actually free, and no expensive toys or technologies could ever replace that. Very warm language, enjoyed reading it.”

Reader — The Five Builders

“Love this. Beautifully written and speaks precisely to my five o’clock child! I especially like the piece at the end acknowledging how hard it is as a parent to manage and navigate these situations. Thank you for the guidance!”

Reader — The five o’clock child

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